Bullying is not new. Like everything else, it has evolved. Today, social media is a large arena for bullying. As parents, many of us don’t have first-hand experience with cyberbullying, which makes it that much more important for us to educate ourselves. What does it mean? How does it occur? What are the signs? How do we prevent it?
Bullying is a pattern of repeated, unwanted, and aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. Cyberbullying includes sending, posting, or sharing negative, harmful or mean content about someone else. It also includes sharing false or private information intended to cause embarrassment or humiliation. Most commonly, cyberbullying occurs on social media, messaging apps, online forums and chat rooms, and online gaming platforms. Tik Tok, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Fortnite, and Tumblr can all be used for this purpose.
Prevention is key:
There are important signs of cyberbullying. Take notice if your child has changes in device use, atypical emotional reactions, or hides screens when other people are near. Is your child avoiding talking about what they are doing when they are online? Are they creating and deleting social media accounts, avoiding social situations, becoming withdrawn or depressed, or losing interest in other activities?
Now that you know the signs, if you notice your child is having a hard time, you can take action. Ask them questions to learn what is happening, how it started, and who is involved. Remember to listen, and refrain from judgement. Take screen shots! This is your record of what is happening, when it’s happening, and who is involved. Most social media platforms have clear policies and reporting processes that can assist in removing the content. If a classmate is involved, report it to the school.
Active bystanders are important to support those targeted by cyberbullying and prevent continued incidents. Teach your children the tools to be active bystanders and stand up to cyberbullying:
As a parent, we want to protect our children from being bullied, but also from bullying others. Empowering our children through open dialogue, increased knowledge and awareness, and providing them with tools to intervene for themselves and others are the keys to prevent cyberbullying.
*“Trolling” is defined as making deliberately offensive or provocative online posts. It is a behavior exhibited by both adults and children.
Sources: stopbullying.org, prevnet.ca